I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!

I’m Not Mad, I Just Hate You!

A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict

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Written by: Michelle Silver

Additional Formats
  • Paperback
  • ISBN 9780140286007
  • 288 Pages
  • Penguin Books
  • Adult


For mothers who are reeling from the rockiness of an ever-changing adolescent, or struggling with a relationship that’s deteriorating by the day, here is encouragement, reassurance, and great advice. “I’m Not Mad, I Just Hate You!” discusses the social, emotional, cultural, and psychological issues that can lead to mother-daughter conflicts. It offers illuminating and very recognizable case studies, and demonstrates how mother-daughter friction during adolescence can actually empower girls by teaching them invaluable skills. By providing mothers with much-needed encouragement and practical strategies to help their daughters grow into emotionally healthy and capable adults, “I’m Not Mad, I Just Hate You!” can transform the tempestuous teenage years into years of positive, enriching growth.

Table of Contents


Part 1: Understanding Your Worlds

1. You and Your Daughter
2. Being a Mother
3. Being an Adolescent Girl
4. Family and Cultural Influences
Part 2: Bridging the Mother-Daughter Gap
5. Building on Your Strengths
6. Recognizing Your Styles
7. Choosing Your Battles
8. Expressing Yourself Effectively
9. Handling Her Outbursts
10. Staying the Course
11. Dealing with Stressful Events
12. Gaining Perspective, Giving Forgiveness

Part 3: Putting It All Into Practice
13. Standing Up to Her Peers
14. Contending with Authority Figures
15. Growing from Her Mistakes

Epilogue: Closing Thoughts